Is This Emotional Abuse?
Question by Ocean: Is this emotional abuse?
I’m actually crying atm because I’m that frustrated and stressed. I want to physically punch my mam and dad In the face. Instead I just eat fatty food to calm me down.everything that goes wrong in the house is blamed onto me. I mean everything. If there’s no bread left its my fault and it was me who ate it. They blame me when the house is a pig stye which is everyday so I have them (4 ppl, mam, dad, brothers) on my back all the time. If money goes missing its me, if anything goes wrong its me. It’s me me me me me me me. So just there now I have had the whole house shouting at me because 2 buttons weren’t on the cooker. They started shouting saying what have I done with the buttons. I say I have no idea what your on about. They say you took the buttons. I’m like use are crazy why would I take the buttons? They all say its her, its you. Going on and on. I want to cry at this point because they aren’t listening to me and just blaming me. Then I go to cut some cheese and my mam starts shouting saying move. Then I freak and and say if I were to leave the cheese on the bench you would start shouting at me. And she’s screaming saying move. So I move and my dad starts onto me again. I can’t win. I hate them.
Also another example, my dads phone front screen was cracked and he said that I punched it. I honestly feel like having a meltdown. I’m sick and stressed. I honestly have the feeling of wanting to bash my head of the wall to relieve stress. I want to go down stairs and start swearing my head off.
Best answer:
Answer by Junior Lamey
I’ve been through that and knw what you’re feeling… well how i got over it was tht i found jesus in my life and accept him as my personal lord and saviour and let him control of the things in my life. i can see tht there is alot of confusion and missery in your house hold and the only way i think you can aleast see some change is if u go to a church and pray and as him to take control and to change the ppl in your life and try to live a good life style.
Answer by Joe P
Your question is leading. You want me to say yes.
I wont though, even while acknowledging… that is some messed up stuff going on. However labeling it and making it your parents responsibility is not what will help you find your way out of it.
You will be the one that must take action to make your life less of the chaos and conflict currently clouding you. You need peace, nature would likely help. Is there any places you can go swimming or hiking near by. You need exercise of your muscles to help release the tension built up by the stress you are living in.
Next you need to learn to distance yourself from your circumstances. Right now you are caught up in the dysfunctional dynamics.You need to build up the psychological skill of not letting your parents emotions flow onto your emotions. As crazy as it sounds, learning to forgive people will give you great benefits in finding inner peace. Learn about negotiations, being assertive, and even being a leader and good role model.
You have brothers and feel they should be doing their part in helping keep the house clean. Make activities, not as punishment but as a service and gift to them, where you mentor them in doing various house chores. Make a poster of responsibilities with stars or smiley faces for people doing their job. I know it sounds corny but it works the best as a motivator.
If nothing else, just know this hard time will eventually pass, and there are many other enjoyable things still to be experienced in your life.
“Otherwise it will all be about getting assertive, telling them to clearn up their own pig stye, and messes, and stick up for yourself in every way.”
Using the word pig stye is not in the spirit of what I intended by being assertive. Here is a link
http://www.counselingcenter.illinois.edu/?page_id=187
The danger of making things more dramatic is two fold.
1) It will only add to your sense of stress and further push you to the breaking point.
2) More importanly it keeps you in your psychological state of victem. Being in this state means even if you parents are carted away or what ever. You might find another person to fill their role, or…
you could be the one filling their role.
That is why you have to work on yourself.
My heart goes out to you, and I wish you the best of luck with what ever choices you make.
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