I Just Recently Found Out My Boyfriend of 3yrs Has Started Smoking PCP. I Need Help….?

Question by guce_415: I just recently found out my boyfriend of 3yrs has started smoking PCP. I need help….?
We have been together for 3 years, we previously lived together. I started noticing some changes in him, wanting to sleep all the time, slurring his words, sneaking out late at night, and just seeming totally out of it. I have confronted him about it and he promised me that he would stop, I asked him why he was doing it and he broke down crying and said he was tired of his life and having no money and then his nose started gushing blood he soaked 3 paper towels. I was so worried I told him I love him and am here for him and will help him any way I can. He promised me that he would stop, and a few days later I am noticing the same symptoms, but he’s trying to play it off like nothing is wrong. It’s hard to believe him and trust him, and I feel so lost and I don’t know what to do anymore. He’s at that very THIN line of turning down a very dangerous path. I’m not sure if I can help him. I can’t help someone who doesn’t want to help themselves, but at the same time I can’t abandon him in his time of need. I know he loves me more than anything; he just got my name tattooed on his neck last month, before all this started. He needs me now more than ever. I just want to know what I should do? It hurts too bad to see him on drugs and letting his life get turned upside down. I’m not sure if giving him an ultimatum me or the drugs is the best thing…
because when he was sneaking out to use drugs I thought he was out cheating on me, and I accused him of that and called him worthless and all kinds of things.. and later when he was having his breakdown when he was telling me why he was still doing it he said that I made him mad. So I’m scared.. I don’t want to say anything to make him want to use.
If you have any personal experiences or stories, PLEASE share them. Any advice will help..
What is good to say to him and what is not good to say?

Best answer:

Answer by ~ Ternie ~
Get him in rehab! It’s going to be a long, difficult road but that’s the best first step to do. If you take him to a regular hospital, they could very likely transport him via ambulance to a rehab center.

Good luck! Talk to him first, get him to realize he’s slowly killing himself, and that’s not good for either one of you. Get him to realize he needs this help, and if he won’t go voluntarily, then see if you can get him a police escort or ambulance to get him to the hospital. Technically, he’s in a suicidal state and can be admitted to a hospital based on that.

Answer by COUNTRY–GIRL
Hes not going to stop on his own! He needs HELP and not the kind you can offer he needs professional Help! ASAP…You can talk all day and night to him and nothing will sink in You can cry scream yell throw a fit all this is worthless.There will never be real trust between you and him as long as he is using.He will lie.steal, and sooner or later cheat as well..There is little to nothing you can do until this guy admits he has a drug problem.Hes always broke from buying this drug this junk is not cheap and is getting higher each and every day.If the dealer or his contact is fronting this it could cause another huge problem as well.Sometimes saying how you feel is good but then if hes on the drug he won’t care and you are wasting your breath since he wont hear what you are saying just what he wants to hear.Express how you feel about him using and wasting this life and destroying his own body for what a 20 minute high.And how this is going to destroy the relationship.Express how this could lead to a split up ( and this will happen)This should be a huge Red Flag for him waving the warning sign.If he does not get your point then you should leave this guy alone and move on.Be straight and honest with him he may or may not be with you.Been there done this and still remember the difficulty’s.
Experience::
Met this man was a real nice guy blaa-blaa blaa, every thing was great untile we got married then all h**l broke loose,he started the drugs his choice was and still is cocaine. He was a nasty man when he was comming down or was out I was called every thing in the book and then some acused of sleeping with his co workers and never did never seen till they came home from work and he was with them.He would toss food across the home break dishes toss light cigs at my face, go out to bars and stay till close each and every night, kept the truck away from me had to stay home for weeks and go no where and if did he thought I was cheating on him.He would say things do things that was totally off the wall like stay up all night and move everything in the home even the entire kitchen re arrange the entire home It was crazy behavior. Peek out the windows all the time lock the doors,whisper ??(only ones in home were me and him) Then not remember to much the next day.Go to work and come home and have a repeat again this went on for 4 years and I finally got sick of his life and got a divorce thank goodness.He was Mean by his ugly words and things he did and the way he actted I was totally on the verge of a huge break down. From this man and his drug abuse habit.All he lived for was work and that al mighty high at end of the day.He would buy an 8 ball a day and before the night was over he was out (if you know much about drugs) I knew Nothing till I met him. I had coke in my home so much from his brother I told him to get it out before I throw down the toliet I had scales baggies ties etc his brother was a pusher.I got to the point I hated when he came home and couldnt waite for him to leave.He started with pot went to crack and ended up with coke as his fav. AND with All this plus alot more his words to me were I LOVE YOU!! You Don’t truely Love someone and do this!!! Last time I spoke to him several years back he told me he had a $ 1000 a day habit. Heres another– He went and got so drunk and doped up he hit a brick wall with the truck on a four lane high way crossed 2 lanes hit this wall with front left side fender all the way down to tail light crossed back over 4 lanes and headed home he did not know what happened or how this happened he didn’t even know how he got home. He went out with co workers came in late another one wher he was a mess ran into a ditch came home with weeds Stuck under front fender of his truck not knowing he had ran into a ditch while driveing again. Took a brand new truck drove into ditch full of water laided this one on its side calls me in middle of the night to ask me what to do Call a wrecker he was so messed up his brain went dead he had no idea what to to to get this truck out of this ditch. Now you have to decide if you want this in your life with this man who seems to want his drug life more and If he truly Loves you he will seek HELP ASAP!!!! I could write a book for you with all that I have seen and had said or done to me from a man on drugs this is all true Been there and seen this and got rid of him. Good luck with your man.

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